One proven way you can live your life - a turn around recipe.
A card up the sleeves of expectant mothers.
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Life! How we live daily is a mystery, sometimes. We wake and go by our day, some of us walk through it in oblivion while there are those who set out each day with a particular goal, course, plan, direction, or purpose in mind; they set out and are fixated on what they intend to achieve before dusk. Weather you live by a set of rules or not, it is imperative that we make it a life duty to live this life, live it once, live it well, and make the most of it how best we can and deem fit. It is also important that we do all these but not at the expense of another’s life; it’s (very) important.
February was an unstable month for me, my life itself was in a bit of crisis mode, all my goals for the month were not achieve. All were not. I had a few scores on some, but since I measured them in context of a month, missing just a day made all my efforts futile. But since it’s a new month, I’ve decided to resume my goals, again. We “go hard or go hard”; going home is not an option.
One goal I had resolved for this year is to be physically fit, and that entailed that I’ll have to exercise daily. I resumed my exercise routine on the first day of March. I’m glad I did. A beautiful thing happened when I went for my morning run, I made a new acquaintance, an aerobics instructor; he helped me finish up my routine. Gosh! I came back home exhausted; drained of all energies in me.
Moving on. I came back to the hostel, rested on my bed and decided to use the opportunity to go through social media.
You see, before now, I had cautioned a roommate of mine about water disposal since we were on the top floor of a one-storey building; if he had heeded my advice, today’s plot twist wouldn’t have happened. But then, it is his life, he’s in total control of how to live it. And since he decided to live it at the expense of ours today, well…
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… while I rested on my bed, it so happen that he disposed off water from the top floor, unfortunately, the residence administrator was in our building. One of the cleaners brought the attention of the admin to the act, who then began calling down my roommate who had gone back into the room and went ahead to lock the door. Well, in all these, I was on ear plugs and doing my thing. The next line of action was a gambit move; the sequences of event were just baffling.
Firstly, the admin asked the residence carpenter to lock up our door. We were asked out and our door, closed behind us, was beginning to seem like an illusion. It first seemed like a joke, and then a threat. The admin was insisting on the crime of ‘insubordination’ and we should ‘all’ be evicted. Ah!
One person was about to make 5 other people homeless. Ah!
After about 4 hours of incessant plea, the interjections of a lot of other associates, we were allowed back into the room; I’m actually on my bed writing this as a welcome back to our mutual relationship on this space.
Thinking about today brought a lot of other events into perspective. It might seem unrelated, but when one of my roomies decided to do things on his own terms, regardless of consequences, and not taking us into consideration, well, the whole story later played out in our favour.
On the zenith of my thoughts, the case of a lot of African state came to mind. The Berlin conference of 1884-1885; there, a lot of people decided to come live at the expense of others which a lot of states are yet to recover from.
A wise man once said something along the lines of;
“A man who plants a tree, knowing he wouldn’t sit under its shade, has began to grasp the meaning of life”.
Life is beyond you, it’s beyond me, and so does how should we chose to live it; it should be beyond us all.
When we begin to make decisions, and put people around us into consideration, it’s easy for the mind to coy us into assuming ourselves doubtful; our personality being timid or filled with insecurity - low self-esteem and it lot. It is at these times we need to remind ourselves of the importance of another's life, considering them doesn't make us lesser beings.
Let's learn to live life like an expectant mother would. It's her life, she's at liberty to live it the way she wants but she will not consider it at the expense of the life she about to birth forth. Doesn't make her lesser of a human, it shows how much she has understood that life is beyond her.